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As I am moving my odometer forward another year and looking around for inspiration to the next steps forward for myself, I must look at the lessons of my past. I revisit memories of conversations and engagements with folks I haven’t seen in easily decades. Some were mentors for me to move forward and some were mentors for me to move away from. All had valuable lessons, the kind I think everyone should go through. So as I sit here my mind starts to workout what is a Hero and Where are they?

Easy Pickings

A hero is someone you look up to for qualities you wish to attain. Throughout my various adventures I have always tried to pick out the biggest, baddest, smartest mamajama to study and emulate. Watch and learn to see what makes them the center of their environment, and what keeps them there. I mean life is very simple, you either show up or you do not. However you have to be careful, just because they may have several traits you like, they will most certainly have traits you don’t like as well. It is the simple balance of everything. Nothing is infallible. That being said I then to look further into human nature to find even deeper connections for heroism. Because this shallow level of heroism will only get you so far, and frankly most times it is based on appearance over knowledge.

Imagine an environment where you are praised for your technical skills but told based upon your appearance you cannot move forward. Yes folks this still happens and it is not based on Ethnic or Genders.

The Overlooked

Like mentioned above, life is about showing up, and in turn I would guess that Heroism is the same. Then I look even further, to a kid whose parents are barely making ends meet. They do not ask for anything they don’t earn. They live like immigrants, work hard, stay in the background, and don’t make a fuss outside the walls of the house because your actions reflect on your family. Be seen and not heard, help those around you but never ask for help, and always remain truthful. I think of watching a parent putting a guitar on layaway for their kid, and doing the math in their head to make sure they could pay it off before the layaway period ends and they would have to forfeit their money. A set of parents that leave around sun up and barely make it back as it sets. These aren’t people that you will see publicized, but they are the people that make it possible for you to not do the things you don’t want to.

These are the silent heroes.

The Redefining This kid is my hero!

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So the next question is, if our world needs a hero and we

know that they are faulty, then who can we trust for that role. Well the answer is simple, it just requires you to think a bit differently.

It’s you! Do you want me to be the hero of your story or in your world? No, and neither do I. Since we all experience the world different, wouldn’t that stand to reason that your world is different than my world, and while the coexist perfectly, you should become that hero you need. Now don’t get me wrong, still look for mentors and folks doing extraordinary things that keep you pushing your own limits or what you thought or hoped to be possible. That is the only way we truly grow. Also by filling your view and setting your sights on the best traits that you aim to grow into, then you are working towards excellence. And please understand that your ending version of those goals will probably differ from how they started or you envisioned. That’s because you’ve changed since starting down that path, hence everything has changed with it, and that is a great marker for growth.

Secretly I was hoping that I would figure out the route I am going to take for the next journey or even the next set of goals to focus on and move forward, however as of today I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. The only thing I know is that I want you to be the Hero of your Story and Me to be the Hero of mine.

Don't be a Sidekick like Tim, be the Hero of your story. But we still like Tim.

Thank you all for reading!

Chef Joe

Anniversary, personal chef, private chef, traveling chef, seattle chef, bellevue chef, entitlement, social media, another year

Howdy Folks,

It has been another interesting year, full of amazement, shock, forced humility at times, and just in general wonderful friends. From this year I have really gotten to deep dive down into an issue that has been bothering me and I believe Social Media brings out in good people… Entitlement.

I’m sure you would think I would see it due to clients hiring a chef to perform anything from Daily Cooking to Full on Catering and anything food related in between, however that

is not the case.

The Entitlement I am talking about actually comes from when people who in all actuality have no intentions of paying for my service get upset at something I post, and instead of being an adult an not hit the Like Icon, instead go on a rant about what a terrible person I am. Now I don’t know about you, but for me Social Media is a fun virtual play land, as in IT IS NOT REAL!

If I see something I do not agree with guess what folks, I scroll past it. I do not pull out my soap box and try to highjack the post to make someone bend to my will, so I can feel better about the waste of time I just did. I do not require an apology for seeing something I disagree with, and further more I will not expect free services from a business posting something that puts my panties in a bunch. Yes, that last one happened.

It is ridiculous what I am seeing out there. I get Non Profits that have their hands out for donations yet telling me they disapprove of something I post, meanwhile taking the donation to bring in money, and not allowing me to bid on the catering. That is disgusting! Over 5 years I have personally donated over $30,000 in Services for these groups to use to help research, schools, music programs and what not.

I’ve had groups whom I have helped over the years and thought we had built a friendship troll my posts and when it comes time for payment, they tell me they need to cut the cord because of post they found that I was tagged in years ago. The bummer here is that when partnering with other groups, it's more about the relationship than the work, so to be trolled for a freebie is really disgusting.

I’ve even been fired for not disclosing my voting choice (even though their guess was completely wrong), and dragged through the mud from common acquaintances.

And guess what folks, this all happened here in Seattle, the self-appointed Spiritual, most Liberal Believe Anything, just do right by those around you state I have ever lived. Can you say Hypocrite? I bet you can. We are surrounded by professional offenders.

So you might have noticed that I turned up the dial on Social Media showcasing a touch of humor (more than in the past), and a bit of withdraw from community programs and donations. My theory from this point on, if it offends you then Do Not Like, Engage, or even Friend my Feeds. Simply leave me alone as it’ll make us both happy, and at the end of the day that is what matters. I don’t have a bad word to say about you, nor will I try to find one, and I would appreciate the same respect back.

So on the week of my Anniversary Celebration, I thought I would go back to the archives and showcase a fun recipe I taught the folks at a retirement community I ran for a few years.

Please enjoy, Have a fantastic day, and remember we’re all doing the best we can!


Brownie in a Mug using Hot Cocoa!

One of my favorites because it is almost a perfect 1:1 ratio, so

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super easy to remember in a pinch.


¼ C Whole Milk

¼ C Hot Cocoa Powder

¼ C Ap Flour

2 Tbs Melted Butter

  1. Mix and sift the Hot Cocoa Powder and Ap Flour together and into a Microwave Safe Coffee Mug.

  2. Stir in the Milk and Melted Butter. Make sure that they Mug is NO MORE than half full.

  3. Microwave on High for about 1 minute or until mixture has doubled.

  4. Let COOL! If not you will be angry with me for attempting to eat LAVA!

  5. Top with whatever you’d like and Enjoy!

BLM, Unity, George Floyd, Protests, Lives, Matter, Fix the streets

Today we have the most diverse group of Political and Social Leaders, yet the racial issue persists, so are they really governing for the people or simply governing the people?

Some of you have watched the video I posted shortly after the first George Floyd Protest happened, and to sum it up in the shortest way possible. How can a group of people who honestly have contributed and bled for this country not be treated like an average American? Why are names being added to a killed by police list every month or 2 and yet it doesn’t seem to be slowing down? Why are they not in control and leading their communities the way the community needs instead of by people who really do not care about the community? Why didn’t the Marches from the 60’s fix this? How can a system paid for by the people not represent or protect all the people?

These are all questions I can only theorize because let me go on record and say…. I can only speak for myself about my life and my limited view of the world. This is not an attempt to speak or judge anyone else.

However, let me say something to our fellow white protesters because as I look at Social Media and the News I can’t help but notice the majority clashing of protesters to cops seem to be when overly ambitious white protesters that get in an already high alert police officers way thinking that the conflict somehow proves they are helping. You are not, but here are some tips to help your fellow Americans:

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  • Build that Wall / Be that Wall – Let’s give our American Brothers and Sisters our numbers, strength, and support through Silent Stance between them and the Police. We don’t need to say a word, but rather Listen and be there to Support (this is the theme folks).

  • This is not our time to be on stage – Again, we can be the silent bouncers while our fellow Americans are on the stage grieving and fighting for their rights to do the same crap we do on a weekly basis. Do not make a protest about you, the moment we take the spotlight that protest loses its power.

  • Listen – Listen to your fellow protestors to best support them. It is their time to be heard and let’s help them however they need it. And whatever you do, do not regurgitate some sort of story to show that you know exactly how they feel, because you do not and will probably never know. None of us live the same life.

Now, like I said in the beginning, I can only speak from my viewpoint and here is my opinion on how to help correct some of this so that we do not have another name added to the list.

  • Protest in their Streets not yours –. Protest in their streets and communities, if they have to face us, then they have to talk to us. Go to the neighborhoods of your Governors, Senators and President. Simply put, think of this as a Corporation and the President as the CEO and everyone below him as VP’s, and CFO’s and such. So when it comes to your Governors, then they are shitty little Middle Managers, and really have no authority for change. Don’t waste your breathe with them. The real group you want is the CFO and the Board of Directors. Those who control the money control the outcome.

  • Become your community leaders – The clash between the community, the police, and community leaders happen because your governing groups don’t live there and do not care like you do. Start filling those jobs with people from that community who care about their neighbors. Yes, it is work but leading by example is the best way. Get those jokers out of your way!

  • Organize with other groups – This can be done peacefully if you have the numbers and start leading and organizing with other communities. The more organized and united towards a single purpose (do not comingle it with other issues, keep it simple and organized) the easier it is to stay strong and focused in the face of the opposition.

  • Collaborate not Compromise – Remember a Collaboration is where both sides win, a Compromise only one side wins. You’ve compromised enough, its time for them to collaborate with you!

At the end of the day until we can recognize each other as a fellow American and treat each other with the respect that we’d love to be given, there will be this unbalanced system. It needs to start with us and be governed by us. My theory on this also is that after a few generations here we truly become American and need to recognize that. Yeah we may keep a few of our country of origins traditions or customs, but if we were to go back and try to live there, we’d stand out as an American. At some point we have to say,

I am American.