As I am moving my odometer forward another year and looking around for inspiration to the next steps forward for myself, I must look at the lessons of my past. I revisit memories of conversations and engagements with folks I haven’t seen in easily decades. Some were mentors for me to move forward and some were mentors for me to move away from. All had valuable lessons, the kind I think everyone should go through. So as I sit here my mind starts to workout what is a Hero and Where are they?
A hero is someone you look up to for qualities you wish to attain. Throughout my various adventures I have always tried to pick out the biggest, baddest, smartest mamajama to study and emulate. Watch and learn to see what makes them the center of their environment, and what keeps them there. I mean life is very simple, you either show up or you do not. However you have to be careful, just because they may have several traits you like, they will most certainly have traits you don’t like as well. It is the simple balance of everything. Nothing is infallible. That being said I then to look further into human nature to find even deeper connections for heroism. Because this shallow level of heroism will only get you so far, and frankly most times it is based on appearance over knowledge.
Imagine an environment where you are praised for your technical skills but told based upon your appearance you cannot move forward. Yes folks this still happens and it is not based on Ethnic or Genders.
Like mentioned above, life is about showing up, and in turn I would guess that Heroism is the same. Then I look even further, to a kid whose parents are barely making ends meet. They do not ask for anything they don’t earn. They live like immigrants, work hard, stay in the background, and don’t make a fuss outside the walls of the house because your actions reflect on your family. Be seen and not heard, help those around you but never ask for help, and always remain truthful. I think of watching a parent putting a guitar on layaway for their kid, and doing the math in their head to make sure they could pay it off before the layaway period ends and they would have to forfeit their money. A set of parents that leave around sun up and barely make it back as it sets. These aren’t people that you will see publicized, but they are the people that make it possible for you to not do the things you don’t want to.
These are the silent heroes.
The Redefining This kid is my hero!
So the next question is, if our world needs a hero and we
know that they are faulty, then who can we trust for that role. Well the answer is simple, it just requires you to think a bit differently.
It’s you! Do you want me to be the hero of your story or in your world? No, and neither do I. Since we all experience the world different, wouldn’t that stand to reason that your world is different than my world, and while the coexist perfectly, you should become that hero you need. Now don’t get me wrong, still look for mentors and folks doing extraordinary things that keep you pushing your own limits or what you thought or hoped to be possible. That is the only way we truly grow. Also by filling your view and setting your sights on the best traits that you aim to grow into, then you are working towards excellence. And please understand that your ending version of those goals will probably differ from how they started or you envisioned. That’s because you’ve changed since starting down that path, hence everything has changed with it, and that is a great marker for growth.
Secretly I was hoping that I would figure out the route I am going to take for the next journey or even the next set of goals to focus on and move forward, however as of today I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. The only thing I know is that I want you to be the Hero of your Story and Me to be the Hero of mine.
Don't be a Sidekick like Tim, be the Hero of your story. But we still like Tim.
Thank you all for reading!